Sunday, August 5, 2007

Ode To Friendship

It was my first day as an International student at an American school. An introduction was made as is the American custom to make me feel welcome---for the rest of the class I was an alien entity-a student from India, the land of cows, sadhus & beggars--in 1965 American students had no inkling about India & far less about a Zoroastrian girl from India who was as fair & pretty as the Americans ,wore skirts & pants with elan & spoke fluent English-even better than most Americans. It was not their concept or image of an Indian who talked about coming from a big city Mumbai, which was like their New York.They were all wary of me, so the 3 of us an Afghan boy, a Dutch girl & yours truly forged a friendship through the initial awkward moments of adjustment in a foreign land.
One afternoon as I was eating my sandwich lunch in the amphi theatre (my favourite place rather than cafeteria) I felt 2 dark eyes watching me from under a mop of dark hair-I smiled & waved to her & that broke the ice.Patricia came over & we bonded over lunch. She was the basketball star but surprisingly unaffected.She loved to hear me speak English & talk about books & literature. Another key to our bonding was her self deprecating humour & my laughter & guffaws. I was seeing America thru a child's eyes & everything amazed & fascinated me, even the most mundane things like grocery shopping,drive-in movie or eating hot dogs.And Pat taught me to love all sports--we attended all basketball & football games & cheered & cheered. I fondly called her Patty Anne & the name stuck. We were inseparable that one year in California at Acalenes High.
When it was time to say good bye, she gave me a sheaf of hand written poem wherein she said a lot of things but in the end ,she said "I like you because You are You". That sums up what our friendship was about--2 persons from 2 different cultures & yet bonding at a deeper level.
Its been more than 40 years now. I lost touch with Patty Anne-I don't know if she is in USA or what she is doing but whenever I think of her,a smile lights up my face & there is a song in my heart for the brief time she came into my life & made it one of the happiest, & I cling to that memory even today. I am sure Patty Anne the same holds true for you too.

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